There is a lot of hype about the “Bad Mom” movie that recently came out. Over the weekend, I went to see it with some mom friends.
The movie got a lot of laughs out of us, some moments that we found hardly believable, and ones that we saw ourselves in.
It all begins with the idea of perfection in the school setting. You know what I am talking about. Get your kids to school on time, be involved, and pack the ideal lunch you copied off of Pinterest. Your kid is involved in all after school activities and you make time to volunteer for the PTA and bring something to the bake sale.
Everything about this almost reads like a fairy tale. Many of us can barely get one thing together let alone the whole package. Then the idea of “bad moms” comes out. These are the women who are less than perfect where the world doesn’t revolve on the latest and greatest for their kids.
Can anyone relate to that one? Yeah. Me too.
Sometimes, we just need to do the best we can.
I read so many articles discussing the definition of a bad mom. Many women including myself are so quick to somewhat jokingly label ourselves as bad moms from time to time. Why is this?
There are times after a long day at work that I pick up my kids later than I planned to and rush them home for a dinner of non-organic chicken nuggets. While this gourmet meal cooks, I heat up some microwave rice while they play on their Ipads. After eating, they play which turns into fighting and that brings out the crazy mommy in me. We hug it out and off to bed they go. While they sleep, I watch their sweet little faces and think to myself how I can be a better mom the next day.
All over Pinterest and social media are ways to be mother of the year. Listed are different ideas for giving your child that perfect childhood. There are rules about the correct way to parent that could fill a book.
Worst of all are other people judging us and we feel it.
We feel it so much that we will call ourselves “bad mom” before anyone else can.
And that is the biggest problem right there.
Where is our confidence? Our children may not always match in the clothes they choose. The sandwich may be cut wrong and time outs may not work but at the end of the day, our children are loved. We teach them to say I am sorry and to do better when mistakes are made. When they cry and their little worlds seem to be ending, we hug them and give them the confidence they need to move forward. We may make choices that are not ideal in others eyes but they are ones that are right for our families.
Bad is a word that in vocabulary can mean something that cannot be changed or a concept where it is the worst you can do.
We can joke and say oops, super mom level may not have been achieved at that moment but that’s okay.
Other ones will be better.
And for that, bad mom is just not in my vocabulary.
Go see the movie! It was a lot of laughs and so much fun to go with mom friends. But next time you refer to yourself as a bad mom or even if someone else does, set it straight!
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