I tiptoed up the stairs and opened the door to his room expecting to find a sleeping 4 year old. His head popped up and he was all smiles.
My heart melted.
It had been a rough evening. We had put him to bed early because he was just having way too many issues and seemed tired. Being 4 is a series of challenges as all of his personalities evolve. We hope he is going to choose a good one to ultimately stay with. Anyone who hangs around this age group knows exactly what I am talking about.
Some parenting moments will bring out the mom you hope to be. I decided to choose mine. I broke him out of his room, (Kind of like a prison break for a 4 year old who doesn’t want to sleep.) and brought him downstairs even though it was 9pm and he had no business being up.
Fifteen minutes later…this was us.
What followed was priceless.
He started asking me questions and I started asking him some. It evolved into so many things that ranged from favorites of colors, animals, cookies, and even shows. The fact that he is upset that we have never visited a jungle with giraffes and lions also came up. (Zoo trip needed?) We spoke about his friends and what games he likes to play. Another bit was about his teachers and the activities that he does in school. Our 4 year old is also very concerned that we don’t have a basement in case we get blown away by a tornado. (One of his favorite movies is the Wizard of Oz. I hope we have not traumatized him.)
The best part of all of this is that we were not interrupted!
I started to feel guilty. We don’t have a lot of these conversations. We are always involved in something or rushing to go somewhere. Maybe it’s just him growing up.
His little sister takes up a lot of time too. The 4 year old is going into his 19th month of giving up his only child status.
I decided to ask him if he liked having a sister. He told me yes. I asked him why.
The 4 year old replied, “more love, mommy.”
He got an extra cookie.
We both got defining moments. Here’s to hoping for more.